My brother sent me a note earlier to tell me that Dick had passed away. To his family and friends, I am sorry for your loss. At this point I can only hope that through your memories you can gain strength to carry on as I’m sure he would have you do. My brother and I were very close to Dick as young kids. He was one of our very best childhood friends.
A little background, if you will. My brother and I grew up with Dick (Dickie as we called him back then) in Huntingville, just outside Watertown. It seems that as kids we did so much together – football, baseball, hunting, fishing, wrestling, apple fights in an old abandoned orchard (yeah, sounds awful, but it was so much fun – bruises, welts and all), building rafts at the local creek, asking my Mom to cook frogs legs and all sorts of other pre-adolescent shenanigans. Often times in the summer Dick would cut through the back lot separating our houses and off the three of us would go for a day of adventure. Often our days were spent exploring the local creek and hillsides. It was such a great time of discovery and fun during an era when our parents did not have to worry as to our whereabouts as it seems so many parents must to do today. We spent so much time together that it seemed as though the three of us were in some measure brothers. In fact, I think my Mom at one time or another came close to declaring Dick to be her 3rd son. I know she always enjoyed his coming by and felt he was a good kid for us to hang out with.
While we did our best to disguise our mischief, I recall one time when temptation got the better of us and we went just a little too far. The Black River ran behind Dick’s house, and one day it seems a number of ducks decided to hang out in the general vicinity. A raft of ducks, relatively close to shore; well, this was just too good an opportunity young accomplished hunters like us (or so we thought) to pass up. So, in the late afternoon we decided it would be a good idea to take a crack at a little pre-season duck hunting. After all, what were the chances anyone would find out. Well, it was great fun until the local game warden, who, as we were to later discover, lived across the bay and apparently close enough to hear our gun shots. He did not come after us, but instead called our Dad. (Dad worked the second shift at the Air Brake.) Apparently he and Dad knew each other well and I guess from his perspective Dad could impose a punishment greater than any fine for our indiscretion. As I recall it, his comment was “Willard, your boys are up to no good.” My brother and I were confronted the following morning with a stern expression and hard questioning. What I found interesting about this whole event is the fact that Dad did not seem to want to hold Dick accountable. I know he liked Dick a lot, so perhaps he felt his message of disappointment would be communicated to Dick through us.
As often happens when we grow up we, for one reason or another, tend to go in separate directions exploring and pursuing life into adulthood. In our case, that’s what happened with us.
While it had been many, many years since I had seen him, Dick had the grace and courtesy to attend the calling hours when our Mom passed away. As soon as he walked into the room, I recalled immediately who he was. It was a moment deserving of the big hug he received. The link to our past was immediate. And, his presence at the calling hours helped to bring back many happy memories to an otherwise sad occasion.
In my experience Dick was never the type of person who sought to be the center of attention. He was a hard worker (He was our paperboy for several years and always delivered the paper on time whether it was a hot and humid summer day or a blistering snowstorm.), and had a quiet and unassuming air. He was the best childhood friend one could have ever hoped for. Rest in peace old friend. You will not be forgotten....Bob Reese, Victoria, British Columbia